Working with Couples
Whether you are married, dating, partnered, or in a long-term relationship, being a couple is hard work! I am passionate about supporting you to grow together as a couple, to renew your SPARK and to guide you to have the best relationship possible!
Most couples come to my therapy practice because they have reached an impasse and find themselves repeating the same unhealthy patterns of communication. Often, two issues emerge during our intake: conflict & intimacy.
You are not alone and you do not have to navigate this alone. With over 20+ years of experience in working with couples, I have developed effective assessments and tools, as well as approaches that support your partnership. You can see my packages below. I offer a one time PARTNERSHIP ASSESSMENT AND EXPLORATION VIRTUAL SESSION. Then, you and your partner can decide what is the best next move to make.
The Programs and Packages
Sex, communication, intention setting, conflict skills and more
Relationships are hard. There is no doubt in that. We do not have manuals for this. Most of us are just winging it, making it up as we go along, and not managing well on our own. SPARCS© for Couples is an individualized, intensive program for couples to work with Christie and become better at the things that matter most: Sex, Love, Intimacy, Communication
As a trained psychotherapist in Somatica® and Level 1 Gottman Method®, Christie has over 17 years of experience in working with couples. It is her passion to bring the passion back for you.
Sessions can be done via zoom and are more intensive and experiential than traditional psychotherapy. Couples get the support that they need to move forward on places they may have been stuck for some time.
Have better sex, communicate with tools to negotiate your needs, resolve deadlocked conflict and create an intentional vision for your relationship. Feel safe and secure that you chose the right partner to be the love of your life.
With experiential session work, tools to take and use immediately, and an arch of treatment designed to connect to your individual desires as a couple, we create a vision together that can last a lifetime.
A special program for couples to light the spark, resolve conflict and move forward with greater happiness and sustainable intimacy
What if your marriage, your relationship, your partnership with the love of your life, wasn’t over, but just beginning…again?
“Your relationship health is the fundamental area in your life that will move you from survival to feeling like you are thriving and happy in life.”
SPARCS© for couples covers 6 areas that I feel are fundamental for relationship health. Safety, Play & Pleasure, Attunement, Realized Dreams & Goals, Communication that is Authentic and Sex & Intimacy.
We assess and determine the areas your relationship that are most strong and keep it that way. And, what areas are a source of pain and conflict…those are the skills we work on together. Want to start with a “getting to know one another”-The Deep Dive Intake Session is for that! 75 minutes, assessing and exploring. Should you then decide this is right for you…you can put your $275 towards a package of your choice.
Because couples work takes time, Christie is available for 3 or 6 month commitment. we can discuss details of what that looks like on a consultation time. Want to really dive in deep? Intensives for couples are also an option. A full day or more to provide a complete individualized experience for you both and really support your goals. What I find is that couples are incredibly busy, when we decide to really dive in for an intensive, whether that is one full day or an amazing weekend away, with a dash of romance splashed in, we really begin to move the issues and begin on the path towards transformation.
communication & conflict
It is not a bad thing to have conflict. In fact, I see it as a normal and very connected dynamic to have. It is how the conflict is managed, communicated and resolved that is the key. Don’t be scared of conflict, it means you are both emotionally plugged into the relationship and wanting something different. Together we work on:
Boundaries
Communication
Expression of Needs
Conflict Resolutions Skills
Ending Negativity that gets you nowhere
Increasing Intimacy, Communication & Deepening Connection
“Conflict managed well, leads us to a higher level of intimacy and connection.”
It’s Here! Just the SPARK you were looking for in your relationship. SPARCS© for Couples is a coaching package with Christie Bemis for 3 months with an intensive day to jump start your next best step. It is for your partnership, whether you are married or not, to work on the things that matter most: Sex, Intimacy, Love, Communication and Conflict Resolution. All in one package for you!
What it is: an all inclusive JUMP START 3 month container of support for busy professionals and couples looking to reignite the spark now! Designed to help you:
Couples are busy, this package acknowledges your unique and sometimes varied schedules. The 1 day deep dive will focus your time and attention on the aspects you most want to see changed.
Couples who stay in therapy for longer, have better outcomes, the 3 follow up sessions will be used to support the changes you made and sustain them.
We focus on your strengths and build on them and pinpoint areas most needing change, individualized to YOUR relationship.
What you receive: over 3 months you’ll be supported with the following (Virtual and In person Madison, WI options are available):
1 Day Deep Dive: personalized 1-day intensive to focus on deep work, help you jumpstart your reconnection now!
Meet on site, lunch provided
Couples work Integration sessions: 3 follow up 1-hour sessions to support the integration of the work after the intensive
Assessment: Receive our signature assessment tool for couples
On-going support in between sessions
Google document to keep track of homework
Text access for quick check ins
Investment: $979/month over 3 months ($2937 total)
5% pay in full savings
Getting back to sex & Intimacy
The key difference in just friendship, just roommates.
Yet, the most frequent thing to lose in a long-term, committed relationship. Together we explore where sex fits into your partnership and how to prioritize intimacy that is sustainable for a busy and full life. We set you up for sexual satisfaction that can last the years and through life’s most stressful times. That is what I like to call Sustainable Erotic.
**** All types of relationships are welcome, heterosexual, monogamous, open, polyamorous, same-sex, dating and married. SPARCS© has supported a variety of dynamics because the tools are essential for ALL relationships.
Coaching with Christie allows an outside observe with years of experience and expertise into the dynamics and patterns of your relationship. We use all the tools in the toolbox, from Imago work and attachment styles, to somatic experiences that allow you to learn in real time and through observation and instruction on sexuality and intimacy, to all the tools in Gottman’s work with with couples. We take from the very best in the field of sex, love and intimacy, and make sure you create SPARCS© around what brought you together in the first place.
Have a quick question? email Christie at Hotpinkyou@gmail.com.
Choose Your Package Below
It’s Here! Just the SPARK you were looking for in your relationship. SPARCS© for Couples is a coaching package with Christie Bemis for 6 months, twice per month, with support in between sessions. It is for your partnership, whether you are married or not, to work on the things that matter most: Sex, Intimacy, Love, Communication and Conflict Resolution. All in one package for you!
What you receive: over 6 months you’ll be supported with the following
Couples work sessions: 12 total 1-hour sessions, meeting twice monthly (in person or virtual?)
Assessment: Receive our signature assessment tool for couples
On-going support in between sessions
Google document to keep track of homework
Text access for quick check ins
Investment: $500/month over 6 months ($3000 total)
5% pay in full savings
Choose the package that fits your life! Listen to the podcast episodes on the SPARCS© framework:
It’s Here! Just the SPARK you were looking for in your relationship. SPARCS© for Couples is a coaching package + One Day Deep Dive with Christie Bemis for 6 months, once per month, with support in between sessions. It is for your partnership, whether you are married or not, to work on the things that matter most: Sex, Intimacy, Love, Communication and Conflict Resolution. All in one package for you!
This package is designed with you in mind. The SPARCS© Assessment guides you through your strengths as a couple and areas needing improvement. From there, we meet regularly with real and practical tools of support.
I believe most of the change that couples make happen in their own lives, not the counseling room…so in between sessions, you get real life assignments to support our work and your progress as a couple. ~ Christie
The deep dive option supports couples wanting a change NOW. It takes you out of your busy life and constant commotion, to deeply focus your time and attention towards one another.
What you receive: over 6 months you’ll be supported with the following
1 Day Deep Dive: personalized 1-day intensive to focus on deep work
Meet on site, lunch provided
Couples work sessions: Ten 90 minute sessions (meeting every 4-6 weeks) virtually. (In person in the Madison, WI area)
Assessment: Receive our signature assessment tool for couples
On-going support in between sessions
Google document to keep track of homework
Text access for quick check ins
Investment: $833/month over 6 months ($5000 total)
5% pay in full savings